Today is an uncomfortable Truth.
There’s a particular reason amazing friendship ends. You know those kinds of friendships you see, and you say, “Oh, wow, these two are so close, they really love and respect each other.” Those kinds of friendships end because you guys tell each other, “Let’s hang out soon,” and it never happens.
Nobody’s angry, nobody betrays anybody, you guys actually still love each other, but you’re no longer close. Your work has become demanding, you have children, you get married, you’ve moved from one country to another, and gradually the phone calls decrease. In the same space, you don’t see each other as much, and you wake up one day and see that there’s no friendship there anymore.
How sad is that?
The small friendship you have that is remaining is surviving through birthday messages, Instagram comments, and Instagram likes. Meanwhile, research has shown us that healthy friendship breeds emotional support. In fact, it helps with psychological well-being.
Have you noticed that when you hang out with your friends, the ones where you don’t have to perform anything, you just are yourself, you speak your mind, you laugh a lot, you leave feeling lighthearted, happier. It’s like there’s a small reset, so why don’t we do that more often?
Many of us have made friendship an emergency lifesaver; only when you have a big problem do you just call them and say, “Oh my God…” and then they come to your rescue, and then after that, they go again. “Let’s hang out soon,” and it never happens.
You see the way you work on your relationship, and you want to make it succeed; that’s how friendship should be, because life is not only about you and your husband and your boss; you are just a human being connecting to another human being and forgetting all the cares in the world.
So this kind of relationship needs to be properly maintained. I have to be honest, I’m guilty of this as well; a lot of my friends are reading this. But today, let’s start making amends.
Let marriage and work or relationship not be the only thing that centers your life. You have friends who want nothing from you but your company and your presence. Hang out with them; it will do something for your soul. And for those of you who are away in other countries, set up a video call, have conversations, laugh, leave everything behind, and focus on that person.
So here’s what we’re going to do: send this write-up to that person who you’ve been saying, “Oh, let’s hang out soon,” and you never hang out. “Oh, I’ll call you tomorrow; I’ll call you next tomorrow.” You never do that, but you cherish that friendship.
You pick a date, okay? Let the person pick a place, and make sure that date happens.
